SYSBM Explained

I don’t know why folks keep insisting on calling SYSBM a movement. It is NOT! It is not political. It doesn’t seek social change. It does not need funding. It does not campaign for new members or even to sway public opinion.

SYSBM is simply an ideology - a way of thinking that comes about when the men begin to see the way they’ve been mistreated and so, they simply opt out of  relationships with uncultured women so that they can enjoy a relationship that is usually not compatible with certain women from American society.

As a man once famously stated:

“I do not have time for both a wife and an aeroplane.”

This misunderstanding of the true nature of SYSBM explains why many men claim to be SYSBM but then turn around and get into romantic relationships regardless of their sexual orientation but as we all know, anyone that becomes romantically involved with another, has to make compromises in order to accomodate the new relationship. With the SYSBM idealogy, all of that is sacrificed in order to regain those original compromises by simply going outside the country and looking elsewhere for relationships with those of a more patriarchal cultural upbringing.

This misunderstanding also explains why so many women attempt to shame SYSBM men by claiming that SYSBM men are social rejects that cannot attain or sustain romantic relationships within their own communities here in America. This is of course, not true because we all know that any man can get a woman to show interest. All he needs is enough money. This is, without doubt, one of the biggest cases of sour grapes in human history. The real problem here is that, if a man has enough money, he will get the girl that is young, fertile, beautiful, submissive and naive and will give him children. The sour grapes women are no longer young. Their beauty is gone, their fertility is gone and yet, they still want men to take care of them. They find that if they intend to have any sort of loving relationships, they are forced to choose to have a house full of cats. This means that with the SYSBM phenomenon gaining speed, women are feeling threatened because men are no longer doing what women want them to do. They are not opening doors for women. They don’t feel the need to run into a fire to save some woman who has been stupid enough to let herself get caught in there. They don’t feel the need to constantly do the gentlemanly thing and pick up the dinner tab in a mixed group of friends. Women cannot manipulate men by getting them to think they might “get lucky.” SYSBM men realize that being manipulated for cash and prizes is not a fair exchange for questionable sex anyway.

I could go on and on and on with all the peace of mind that I have been enjoying since I went SYSBM. But I’ll just name a few.

I go to the language club with my bilingual friends and I don’t have to ask for anyone’s permission. I don’t have to hear any shit when I get home about it. If I’m out at midnight at a party that is winding down I can go home without a second thought. I dont need to explain to NO ONE and I dont need to clear it with NO ONE.

I don’t need to buy a big fancy house, only to have some woman designate certain areas to herself and the kids while at the same time, pushing me into the garage and calling it a “man cave.” At my house, the entire structure is my “man cave.”

Amin Parker